Don’t Just Listen to Their Words — Listen to Their Life
“Don’t Just Listen to Their Words — Listen to Their Life.”
We live in an age where everyone seems to have advice.
LinkedIn posts. Podcasts. Reels. Quotes.
But here’s the harsh truth:
👉Not everyone who speaks has earned the right to be heard.
Some people talk from experience.
Others talk from echo.
And if you’re not careful, you’ll end up following someone’s noise instead of someone’s proof.
The Real Experience: What Life Teaches Better Than Words
I once coached a mid-level manager who wanted to start her own consulting firm.
She spent months listening to online “gurus” — what to post, how to brand, how to scale.
But the result? She was more confused, not more confident.
Because she was listening to words, not lives.
When we sat down, I asked her:
> “Who in your circle is actually living what you want to create?”
She paused. Then mentioned an old mentor — a woman quietly running a successful practice, without the online noise.
She observed how that mentor handled clients, built trust, and stayed authentic.
And that observation taught her more than 50 YouTube videos ever could.
Within six months, her business was thriving — not because she found more advice,
but because she followed fewer, truer examples.
The Three People Worth Listening To
In your journey, you’ll meet three kinds of teachers — sometimes all in one person.
1️⃣ The Exampler
They don’t preach. They practice.
They inspire through action — not applause.
Watch them. Study them. Observe the micro details of how they work, decide, and recover.
Because they live what others only quote.
2️⃣ The Failure Who Kept Going
They’ve failed at goals you’re chasing — and got back up anyway.
Their stories are not filtered by perfection.
They know what it means to lose motivation and still move.
If someone fell and continued walking, they can show you how to stand taller.
3️⃣ The True Teller
They won’t sugarcoat your reality.
They’ll give you the truth — even when it burns your comfort zone.
Don’t confuse honesty with harshness.
That discomfort you feel? That’s your ego cracking open for growth.
🧠 “The people who tell you what you need to hear — not what you want to — are your true mirrors.”
Immediate Applicable Solution: The “Lived Life” Filter
Next time someone offers advice, pause and ask yourself three questions:
1. Have they lived what they’re teaching?
If not, you’re listening to theory, not truth.
2. Are they consistent?
Watch if their behavior aligns with their message — especially when no one’s watching.
3. Do they embody what I aspire to be?
If yes, don’t just listen — observe and learn.
This simple mental filter will save you years of wasted direction.
Because the wrong mentor can delay you more than failure ever will.
Why This Matters — The Hidden Cost of Wrong Influence
Every piece of advice you act on rewires your belief system.
If you absorb wisdom from someone who hasn’t walked the path, you build confidence on illusions.
That’s why many professionals feel “stuck” even after learning so much —
They’re educated, but not elevated.
Because they’ve been listening to noise, not results.
In contrast, when you learn from people who live their message, something shifts inside you —
You start believing it’s possible, because you’ve seen it in motion.
💎The Final Truth
Everyone’s talking.
Few are truly walking.
So the next time you seek guidance —
Don’t ask, “Who speaks well?”
Ask, “Who lives well?”
Because your growth doesn’t come from what you hear —
It comes from what you witness, absorb, and apply.
And that’s how wisdom becomes your lived truth — not borrowed noise.
📸 Pic Credit: Google
💭 Listen less to voices. Listen more to lives.
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